#226: Find Delight in Your Marriage (Feat. Belah Rose)

Season #5

*This podcast contains intimate language and may not be suitable for children's ears.*

How's your marriage doing, really?

Belah Rose joins our podcast and tells the story of her purity going into marriage, the relational struggles of her first marriage and her solution and now success in her current marriage. She says if she had known the things she knows now about men and women she would have applied that to her first marriage and believes it would have been a successful marriage. 

She is working on a marriage bundle now that starts with pre-dating to give our kids before they start dating a plan on not falling in love but in how to know yourself and find the person for you. The second book is about dating and the last one is about being engaged. (these last two will be out in 2024) 

Delightyourmarriage is her ministry and was born- first with a book Delight your Husband found on Amazon which then led to interviewing many wives on their successes and failures in spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy.  

The connections with wives then became a connection with husbands as Belah shared her findings and now her ministry is made up of more husbands wanting to learn how to be intimate with their wives. 

Belah shared that men and women are created differently- by God’s design so their intimacy needs are very different too. She created a Delight Your Marriage Framework resource that can be downloaded on her website.

Here is a summary of the DYM Framework:  

  • To feel loved a wife needs to feel known, safe and wholeheartedly cherished 
  • Husbands date your wives- set a regular weekly time and a spontaneous monthly time to get to know and cherish your wife. 
  • To feel loved a husband needs to feel respected, admired and have wholehearted sexual intimacy 
  • Wives don’t ‘mother’ your husband it disrespectful.  
  • Wives have wholehearted sex 2-3 times a week- make your man the happiest man on earth (ONLY you can do that) 

We wrapped up by having talking about the value of marriage in the family and that it’s the most important thing you can do for your children. She shared a quote- the best thing a wife can do for your children is have passionate sex with their father.

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