#227: Is Your Marriage Surviving or Thriving? (Feat. Jon and Carrie Vajko)
Is your marriage surviving? Thriving? How do you make a change?
Husband and wife Jonathan and Carrie Vajko join the CCF podcast to help take your marriage deeper! They have a podcast that is about being intentional in your marriage and joined us to share how you can strengthen your marriage TODAY!
Their story: Met 8 years ago at church, got married a year later, and a year and a half later they got pregnant with their son. They have a 5-year-old son and 3-year-old daughters.
They got into helping couples 2 years ago when they felt led to share their story and how it played a role in their current marriage. They wanted to help people see how their upbringing affects current relational dynamics.
After sharing their story and hearing others, they realized intentionality kept surfacing and when they focused on it, their relationships grew stronger.
How has intentionality helped your marriage? Your parenting? What are the benefits and challenges of being intentional?
- When intentionality is modeled, it helps kids have loving relationships with all other people.
- Being intentional has generational impact.
- Intentionality brings relational blessings and creates thriving not just surviving relationships.
- Not being intentional creates “two ships passing in the night” or “roommate” relationships
- A lack of intentionality can cause you to believe lies about marriage over time.
How do you bring intentionality into marriage?
- Acknowledge you want your marriage to go from surviving to thriving.
- Taking the time to spend and invest in your spouse (date nights – make them happen!)
- Ask questions and make sure you are listening.
- Practice listening and allowing spouse to think of their answer after you ask a question.
Marriage is important and is worth the investment. Understanding your spouse is essential to choosing intentionality. Jon and Carrie challenge and encourage you to go deeper in your marriage by investing time, asking questions, and learning to listen.
Take this information and go make time for your spouse. If we make time and ask questions, we can live intentionally in all our relationships, especially our marriage!
